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2014年11月20日星期四

The Point Of Being Single Is Not To Look For Love

Being single isn’t about looking for love, or at least the kind you’re used to looking for. Being single is as full of love as a relationship, even if it seems narcissistic to admit it. Because this relationship is about loving yourself just as much as you’d love someone else.
It’s about maturing as an individual, not a relationship and growing strong alone, rather than off someone. It’s a completely new kind of a relationship that you will explore and discover the same way you would a new partner.
Being single isn’t about being alone, it’s about being by yourself. There’s a difference between the two, and the sooner you see that difference, the more excited you’ll be about the single life in front of you.
If you’re going to be single, do it right. If you’re going to stand alone when everyone is telling you to couple down, stand tall. Be f*ckng single. Rock the single life. Become the person you were meant to be. Show, by example, that you’re single by choice, not by accident.

It’s about finding passion in your life, not between the sheets.

The best part about being single is looking for that one thing (or multiple things) that will absorb into you and wrap itself around you. It’s going to be something you miss and yearn for the way you did an ex-lover.
Only your passions will always love you back. It will never stray or leave you without warning. It will never become part of your life then disappear.
Your passions are the only things that should come into bed with you before a man or woman.

It’s about giving love away without needing it back.

Being single isn’t about looking for someone to love you, but rather, looking for anything and everything to love. It’s about loving everything you come in contact with. It’s about forging relationships that don’t need reciprocation and throwing you heart away without fear you won’t get it back.
It’s about loving multiple people at one time while having a simultaneous love affair with your favorite books, movies and new passions.

It’s about making yourself a better person, not someone else.

This is the time to look for healing, not for love. It’s the time that we use to make ourselves better, even if it takes five years to do. This time alone is when you should be working on making yourself whole. It’s when you should be exploring your weaknesses and flaws and building yourself into a better person.
Because you can’t possibly try to make someone else better if you don’t know what’s wrong with yourself.
文章摘入自 :Elite Daily

为这些年来单身的自己找到你为什么还单身的意义,收藏在这里算是回顾算是提醒。
我从来都不曾着急,仿佛一直都相信这当中一定有它还未发生的意义。
但我质疑,很多时候真的觉得是不是真的没什么好,曾经也觉得自己值得拥有更好的;却到真的站在面对爱情的面前,逃脱了。只是这也成了后来的过雨云烟,现在看来反倒是觉得,那种不确定的感觉当中竟然少了一点冲动,所以迟疑。所以爱情没有发生,必有它的理由。

我想遇见一个人,先是要有让理智满分的我有了冲动的念头,其实是让我找到一种“你终于来了”的感觉。后是要拥有幽默的智慧,我个人觉得这是一门艺术,一股魅力,一种智慧。而为什么笑如此珍贵呢,如果真的走到地老天荒的一天,世上许多东西都无法永恒,失去了价值,唯独笑是你还能拥有最大的资产。而能遇见那么一个总是能轻易的就让你笑的人,便如同找到资产的泉源。


ye C

2014年6月25日星期三

《向夕》

你依然美丽,就像我初见你的样子
为了想天天看见你,我可以为你向西,多么愿意。
我并不知道,是这样的你才能让我荒唐爱上
总是等到擦肩总是等到离别前夕
你总在我迈步追逐的前方 看似璀璨
你总在夜幕降临前的尾端 看似沉默
你总让我屏住呼吸 总在一天结束前大梦初醒 总让我的绝望逐笑颜开

纵使你必然离开 温柔也会慢慢退却
但仿佛曾被你温柔的抱
便对爱有了新的诠释
只要你留下一抹星光笼罩
我便舍得你以最迷人的姿态渐渐退却
若那是你最美的样子 多么愿意

有的人即使像日出 多么必然
但邂逅总是需要缘分深一点 比眷恋浅一些
不如永远不要相约 让邂逅更美一些 多么愿意
我猜你依旧美丽 就像我初见你的样子

-《向夕》 词 : 张惠仪

2014年2月15日星期六

Their day

有时候 有时候

真的真的觉得
该是我了
该是你了

但你总在我探头去望的时候
转身离开

有时候 有时候

真的真的好想知道
你是否曾为我心动

哪怕一瞬间也好

可是我 有时候

宁愿选择留恋不放手
等到风景都看透
或许你就会陪我

看细水长流

Sometimes I wonder
How's V-day taste like...

2013年11月25日星期一

最接近爱情的时候

张惠仪,

虽然今天的我无法向你保证未来的你一定会遇见更好的人;虽然我不能答应你所有的等待都是值得的;虽然现在的我无法理解为何老天总是抓弄你;为何让好不容易走向你的人却又走出你的生命;虽然现在的你不断地怀疑自己,总是觉得是不是你真的不够好,为何总是你身边的朋友而不是自己。。。

虽然我也跟你一样直到今天仍在怀疑自己的价值,但请相信我亲爱的,总有一天你一定会发现自己的价值;总有一天你会知道为何老天造化今天这样的你,不完美却必有其意义;总有一天你会像义智一样明白自己为何会生存在这个世界上,为何命运把你放在这里,是为了世上的某一个人而让你的人生变得更有价值。

我是这样相信着的,冥冥中自有安排,就算你要经历一次又一次的失去;即使你必错过一个又一个很好的人,但你仍要相信,要变得更好,那代表你将更值得拥有更好的选择。即使今天难过了、心碎了,但别放弃爱了,请给时间一点时间,它会证明一切,让所有的事物变得有其价值。

因为我,真的觉得你很不错!

亲爱的,要一直爱下去。


张惠仪
6/7/2013





p/s:无意间把岁月摊开而发现其中痕迹

2013年9月23日星期一

20 THINGS I WOULD TELL MY 20-YEAR-OLD SELF


1.     If even 1% of you has the desire to live/work in another country, start the Visa process now. Do this so 10 years later when you have the urge to live abroad, you won’t have to wait a decade in order to do so.
2.     Compete with your intelligence and kindness. Not with your looks.
3.     There is clothing appropriate for the beach, the club and the office. Know the difference between all three settings.
4.     Be careful whom you get your advice from. Not everyone is suited to give you feedback that will help your path.
5.     Each breakup brings you closer to the person who is right for you.
6.     You’re not going to marry him. He was never meant to be forever.
7.     Quick friendships can break apart easily. Take time before giving someone BFF status. You don’t know someone until you’ve experienced enough of life with them.
8.     Buying shoes too small with the hope that they will stretch out is a bad idea.
9.     If he doesn’t make an effort to see you, he doesn’t like you enough. Move on.
10.  Ask your parents for advice even when you don’t need it. It makes them feel good.
11.  Have enough money saved, your resume always updated and diversify your skillset so that if you lose your job tomorrow, you will still be on your feet.
12.  Say yes more.
13.  You know when something isn’t fitting. You can feel it in your body. Don’t ignore that intuition.
14.  Send more flowers. Write more cards. Celebrate people’s special moments.
15.  No matter how much it hurts, how unfair it feels or how hard you are struck down, always handle yourself with grace and dignity. That’s the only thing nobody can ever take away from you.
16.  Spend more time outside. Spend less time shopping.
17.  Regardless of what Usher thinks, you will never find/make love in the club.
18.  Go for the beta male.
19.  Don’t post that photo.
20.  You will get back up. Your heart will mend. You will forget. And one day in the future, it will all make sense.

text copied from http://justmytype.ca/20-things-i-would-tell-my-20-year-old-self/


2013年9月22日星期日

Hmmm

半夜三更

一种感觉

若有个人

一边紧抱我

小声地说

多么爱我

#crap

2013年9月19日星期四

需要。家

我很爱家,很喜欢回家的感觉
我也爱你们,喜欢家里热热闹闹的气氛
但有时你们过于的保护让我窒息
让我真的好想赶快离开你们独自生活
面临难题的时候我需要沉淀下来慢慢思考
你们过分的慰问会让我更加沉重
你不了解我的方式却觉得我什么都不跟你们商量
在重大的抉择面前我习惯静静一个人思考
因为我不想让太多人来左右我内心的意愿我不喜欢听过多的意见
因为那全是你们想要的样子
但生活是我在过,我不可能让你们来替我决定我该走的路
我知道那是关心但我也坦白的解释过站在我的立场这些都会变成压力
有时候该让我们学着自己为自己的问题承担
何况这只是渡过期,我不会永远停留不动的
你们不了解我也没关系
但别在不了解我的时候说我变了,说我叛逆
这让我很难过也很讨厌
可不可以在我最无助的时候无条件地信任我
那么我就会义无反顾地向前
我只需要一个相信我的人
及给我微笑告诉我总会到达的

请原谅我的沉默
我真的不喜欢在情绪低落及生气的时候说话
我不喜欢跟你吵架这样会让我很心痛
让我觉得自己很不董事很不孝
你只需要在我说够了的时候让我静下来其实就可以避免所有的争执
还有为什么要为我的人生而争执呢?
那是我的人生本来就只有我自己可以走到未来
让你们争赢了又得到什么呢
为什么不能在这种时候相信我的成熟与理智
但你总听不进去我的感受
你总觉得这是孩子长大了不需要爸妈的现象
我们永远都需要父母
只是小时候的我需要保护
但此刻我需要的是你们的信任及鼓励
我需要你让我自己走看这个世界
需要你让我跌倒知道挫折的意义
需要你让我为我的人生自己做决定
我真的需要

真的好想去远一点的地方自己面对生活

但我现在什么都不想要了
只需要一个拥抱及肩膀