The Point Of Being Single Is Not To Look For Love

Being single isn’t about looking for love, or at least the kind you’re used to looking for. Being single is as full of love as a relationship, even if it seems narcissistic to admit it. Because this relationship is about loving yourself just as much as you’d love someone else.

It’s about maturing as an individual, not a relationship and growing strong alone, rather than off someone. It’s a completely new kind of a relationship that you will explore and discover the same way you would a new partner.

Being single isn’t about being alone, it’s about being by yourself. There’s a difference between the two, and the sooner you see that difference, the more excited you’ll be about the single life in front of you.

If you’re going to be single, do it right. If you’re going to stand alone when everyone is telling you to couple down, stand tall. Be f*ckng single. Rock the single life. Become the person you were meant to be. Show, by example, that you’re single by choice, not by accident.

It’s about finding passion in your life, not between the sheets.

The best part about being single is looking for that one thing (or multiple things) that will absorb into you and wrap itself around you. It’s going to be something you miss and yearn for the way you did an ex-lover.

Only your passions will always love you back. It will never stray or leave you without warning. It will never become part of your life then disappear.

Your passions are the only things that should come into bed with you before a man or woman.

It’s about giving love away without needing it back.

Being single isn’t about looking for someone to love you, but rather, looking for anything and everything to love. It’s about loving everything you come in contact with. It’s about forging relationships that don’t need reciprocation and throwing you heart away without fear you won’t get it back.

It’s about loving multiple people at one time while having a simultaneous love affair with your favorite books, movies and new passions.

It’s about making yourself a better person, not someone else.

This is the time to look for healing, not for love. It’s the time that we use to make ourselves better, even if it takes five years to do. This time alone is when you should be working on making yourself whole. It’s when you should be exploring your weaknesses and flaws and building yourself into a better person.

Because you can’t possibly try to make someone else better if you don’t know what’s wrong with yourself.

文章摘入自 ：Elite Daily

为这些年来单身的自己找到你为什么还单身的意义，收藏在这里算是回顾算是提醒。

我从来都不曾着急，仿佛一直都相信这当中一定有它还未发生的意义。

但我质疑，很多时候真的觉得是不是真的没什么好，曾经也觉得自己值得拥有更好的；却到真的站在面对爱情的面前，逃脱了。只是这也成了后来的过雨云烟，现在看来反倒是觉得，那种不确定的感觉当中竟然少了一点冲动，所以迟疑。所以爱情没有发生，必有它的理由。

我想遇见一个人，先是要有让理智满分的我有了冲动的念头，其实是让我找到一种“你终于来了”的感觉。后是要拥有幽默的智慧，我个人觉得这是一门艺术，一股魅力，一种智慧。而为什么笑如此珍贵呢，如果真的走到地老天荒的一天，世上许多东西都无法永恒，失去了价值，唯独笑是你还能拥有最大的资产。而能遇见那么一个总是能轻易的就让你笑的人，便如同找到资产的泉源。

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